Tuesday, December 08, 2009

Introvert or Extrovert?


The BBC schedules are dominated by Alan Bennett at the moment.
I love Alan - but you can have too much of a good thing.

Apparently, he is a deeply shy man who has always had a desire to entertain. Surprisingly this is a paradox found in many performers.

Take Dave for instance - too shy to go to the gardeners' club but jumps willingly into the pulpit every Sunday and knocks 'em for six.

I'm a bit similar - often tongue tied in social situations but a shameless show off in the lab/classroom in front of a receptive audience. And you should have seen me in the staff panto.

I would describe myself as an introvert.

An introvert is not necessarily shy, or misanthropic. Introverts just find other people tiring except in small doses. They would rather shell peas than make small talk.

An introvert would not do well on 'I'm a Celebrity' or 'Big Bother'

In complete contrast, extroverts are energized by people, and wilt when alone.

Leave an extrovert alone for two minutes and s/he will reach for the mobile. They assume that company is always a good thing and refuse to believe that someone would want or even need to be alone.

I read about it here.

Introverts are not considered "naturals" in politics. Contrast Richard Nixon with Bill Clinton and Gordon Brown with Tony Blair.

Modern attitudes say "people person" = good, but "loner" = serial killer.

So extroverts dominate social and public life.

What about you?
And would you change?
KAZ

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48 Comments:

Blogger Roses said...

First! Bwhahahaha!

7:35 am  
Blogger Roses said...

I like people. Just not all the time and not on a daily basis.

Silence is to be appreciated.

Having to fill every waking hour with other human beings, fills me with horror.

That's why the internet is so groovy. I can be as sociable as I want, without feeling crowded.

I think that makes me an Introvert. Nope. I wouldn't want to change that.

7:40 am  
Blogger Martin H. said...

Kaz

I used to wonder about this, until I read a quote about Cormac McCarthy, describing him as a 'gregarious loner'. That about sums me up. I'm uncomfortable addressing large groups in formal situations, but I'm in my element when things are more relaxed. Complex creatures, aren't we?

7:41 am  
Blogger tony said...

[*blinks* ]I could have been first if I had wanted to be but I was too shy to do so............

7:42 am  
Blogger Rog said...

Like all other bloggers, I'm fighting back against my natural urges not to discuss me, myself or I.

It's a bit like Dawn French and the terrible battle she's had with anorexia.

7:46 am  
Blogger I, Like The View said...

I rather liked this bit: "a minority in the regular population but a majority in the gifted population"

(-;

8:02 am  
Blogger KAZ said...

Roses:
And you've invented a new word.

Roses:
Agreed.
You can ignore people on the internet and they don't get offended.
Was in you with Dave at Kentucky Fried Chicken?

Martin:
'gregarious loner' - excellent!
I quite like big gatherings where you can mingle and don't have to sit in one place.

Tony:
Now why do I find that hard to believe?
You're a lovely people person.

Rog:
Dawn hides it so well under those tents doesn't she?
Are you sure you've got the hang of this blogging thing?

View:
That was a bit naughty wasn't it?

8:09 am  
Blogger xl said...

Uh, neither?

Diagnosed Social Anxiety Disorder. Icy fear of groups/social situations, but doesn't want to be.

8:16 am  
Blogger Gerald (Hyde DP) said...

all us introverts should get together and throw a party - on second thoughts we're better off as we are partying online.

8:23 am  
Blogger Dave said...

Spot on. I said to someone only last week that I'm an introvert, who's happy to stand up and talk to several hundred people from the safety of a pulpit, but would rather not speak to them close-up.

I'm OK on a one-to-one basis though.

8:35 am  
OpenID moreidlethoughts said...

It's the very thing that leads many to theatrical careers. Me? Well, given a character, I could show off, big time, safe in the knowledge that I didn't have to perform off-stage.
But that doesn't mean I have a basement littered with bodies!

8:43 am  
Blogger geraldgee said...

Introvert sunday




extrovert monday
Introvert tuesday
Extrovert wednesday
Introvert thursday...etc
Best of both worlds.
BTW Love that sweater first photo,Granny made?

9:03 am  
Blogger Macy said...

Me? Extroverted hermit I reckon. Partying on down in the middle of nowhere....

9:18 am  
Blogger KAZ said...

xl:
Let's hope the ice melts a bit Down Under.

Gerald:
'partying online for introverts'
Excellent.

Dave:
Funny beggars aren't we?

Dinah:
I'll believe you - though thousands wouldn't.

Gerald:
You are still a crazy mixed up kid!

Macy:
'Middle of Nowhere'?
Come to Manchester and party.

11:01 am  
Blogger BEAST said...

I am happy enough being with people when there is some point to it ie we are all doing something . I get bored with pointless socialising . I would rather be doing my own thing , even if it is running about at home pretending to be Batman
***slaps colander on head and flaps cape menacingly**

11:47 am  
Blogger Vicus Scurra said...

I've never thought about it. I suppose that that makes me an introvert.

12:01 pm  
Blogger Geoff said...

Is this about belly buttons?

I'm an extrovert on blogs & Twitter but an introvert in person. You wouldn't get me on the stage, Mrs Worthington.

1:27 pm  
Blogger KAZ said...

Beast:
Yes - good point.
I'll come and join you in the Cafe C kitchen over Christmas.

Vicus:
Do you pick up your mobile at the prospect of an afternoon alone?

Geoff:
But what was that about your meeting with Roland Gift? (swoons)

1:37 pm  
Blogger MJ said...

Confirmed introvert.

Bloggers don't stink like the filth we have to encounter in "real life".

Except for BEAST, of course.

2:17 pm  
Blogger Rol said...

I'm a misanthrope. I would be a serial killer, but I don't like to hurt anybody's feelings.

4:08 pm  
Blogger Roses said...

It was Maccy Ds...and yes it was me.

KFC would have killed him off for sure.

4:09 pm  
Blogger Kerrie said...

I think we are quite alike not only are we vegetarian David lovers but I like my own company but put put me on a stage to dance I will quite happily flash you everything I have got with bells on.

4:37 pm  
Blogger KAZ said...

MJ:
You are a cyberspace extrovert.....
....... and you are not at all nice to Beast - but he seems to love it.

Rol:
Are you an extrovert misanthrope who needs to be with people so he can be horrible to them?

Roses:
Did he wear his long black dress?

Kerrie:
I like cats as well.
Oh - but I only perform when fully clothed.

6:04 pm  
Blogger Roses said...

It was only me and some shop assistants and the whole of Norwich city centre so no, he couldn't be arsed to make an effort.

Do tassles and feathers count as clothes?

7:58 pm  
Blogger mago said...

hm, don't know. I'm a vert.

6:55 am  
Blogger Steve said...

Introvert through and through, me, and proud of it. I don't need other people to do my own thing or even approve and I have my extrovert moments when I need them. Best of both worlds without being dependent on either. Having said that it took me many years to finally accept that and be happy with myself.

9:50 am  
Blogger Betty said...

I've thought for a number of years that I suffer from social anxiety, but it could just be down to the fact that I don't like people.

Anyway, I'm not going to change, so extroverts can leave me alone and hang out with their own type, thank you very much.

10:13 am  
OpenID exposemaximum said...

extrovert :)

11:59 am  
Blogger KAZ said...

Roses:
We must make allowances.
Yes - but only if you're under twelve.

Mago:
So - you are sitting on the fence.
Is vert German for Green?

Steve:
Yes - I had trouble.
I actually found that article helped - I can't remember how I found it.

Barb...er Betty:
What's in a name?
The revelation to me was the phrase 'find people tiring' - I really can enjoy chatting for all of 5 minutes. Then I start looking for escape routes.

Exposemax:
Excellent.
We introverts need someone to befriend us.

3:38 pm  
Anonymous David said...

You mean this introvert/extrovert thing is not determined by one's belly button?

4:51 pm  
Blogger mago said...

Sorry, no, French. But sometimes I feel pretty green - that's "GrĂ¼n" in German. I know a fence, but it's not mine. That would be "Hehler" in German.
BTW I very much like the first photograph.

8:39 pm  
Blogger Kevin Musgrove said...

Extremely introverted but I've learned how to do the voices.

10:00 pm  
Blogger Lubin said...

An introvert trapped in the body of an extrovert (e.g. people assume I'm a lot more outgoing and friendly than I actually am).

Extroverts are so noisy.

10:38 pm  
Blogger UberGrumpy said...

'Good thing'? Have you seen 'The History Boys?'

11:56 pm  
Blogger UberGrumpy said...

P.S. I'm an ultravert

11:57 pm  
Blogger garfer said...

I am consistent in my psychopathy. I think folk respect me for it.

If they didn't they'd get what for.

I am an omnivore, and proud of it.

12:48 am  
Blogger KAZ said...

David:
I think there may be a bit more to it.

Mago:
So you are sitting on the hehler and are neither extro or intro.
You must have very good balance.

Kevin:
Talk the talk and walk the walk eh?

Lubin:
Yes - that's the actor bit showing itself.
We introverts are so subtle.

UberG:
Have I seen 'The History Boys'?
Only 5 million times.
OK - perhaps you can't have too much of a good thing!

UG 2:
Or an Ubervert?

Garfer:
You are an endangered species.

10:24 am  
Blogger Donn said...

If I took the Meyers Briggs test on different days I would get equally saddled with an I or an E.
Labels schmabels...I'm a misanthrow-up; love people but hate mankind.

Depending on my level of interest in the conversation and intoxication, I can take over a room or blend into the walls.
I tend to eschew large gatherings of the great unwashed because they are so f*cking unpredictable..
except at sporting events and fast-food restaurants where they are so tediously consistent at displaying horrid behaviour.

Aah..I'm certainly a tedious (kolboynik) "Extie" on the interwebs however in the RW I'm actually quite tolerable...atleast that's what the voices in my head tell me :)

6:42 pm  
Blogger KAZ said...

Donn:
Yes - the I or E question is definitely intoxication - linked.
But, I can never imagine you 'blending into the walls' - unless you've passed out.

12:40 pm  
Blogger MARGARET GOSDEN 2 said...

When all is said and done, two great photos! I communicate through my fingers, so I must be a bit intro, but would like to be extro when I meet another extro! Se la vie!

2:20 pm  
Blogger Richard said...

I like the company of people I know and trust and am not afraid to speak my mind amongst them. I dislike crowds and people who continually want you to "come up and have a go" or want you to dance. On the other hand, I have an unsatisfied urge to perform and the one time I played in a band I loved it and strangely I have no problem with standing up in front of a large group of people as long as it doesn't involve singing. I've done broadcasts and been interviewed on radio several times and I'm fairly confident about that sort of thing but wouldn't want to be well known. A mix of introvert with certain extrovert tendencies that are largely under control and kept to myself. Put it this way, I've played the guitar for years but if anyone asks me to play something, I can't. On my own, I'm fronting my own band in front of 100,000 at Glastonury.

3:28 pm  
Blogger KAZ said...

Hi Margaret:
Being extro with an extro is not too hard.
They do most of the work.

Richard:
"come up and have a go" - oh no - the words I dread more than anything.
What a shame you can't make more of your music. Perhaps you and Rog could start a band.

8:40 pm  
Blogger Madame DeFarge said...

Introvert, but very good at pretending otherwise. But always want to run away and hide after being extroverted. Safer being invisible.

8:48 pm  
Blogger Z said...

Most of us seem quite similar in our anti-social but good at hiding it tendencies.

9:01 pm  
Blogger KAZ said...

Madame:
Being extroverted can make you feel foolish and exposed when you aren't really made that way.

Z:
True.
Is that Because we're all bloggers?
Or could it be true of everyone?

1:20 pm  
Blogger Z said...

Probably.

3:06 pm  
Blogger KAZ said...

More research needed.

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